Friday, October 30, 2009

WHAT'S TAKING SO LONG ?


I try to practice patience as most will read in my previous blogs, but today I can't say that I'm not disappointed:-(. The weekly report from my agency is that there are NO referrals to report! You would think with 6 orphanages on the team and plenty of children needing forever families that the process would be consistent. I guess it it is consistently SLOW! My agency and most that work with Ethiopia is very ethical. So, I understand the all t's must me crossed and all i's must be dotted but my goodness, I never imagined it to be like this! My prayers and comfort go out to those families that have been waiting since August 08'. Keep your head up. It's going to happen soon. The good news is that court dates are coming in and a couple of families actually passed on the first try, congratulations! Our director gave some good advice to help ease the sting of the wait. She said to complete your child's room, learn some Amharic or even learn to cook some Ethiopian food. I'm going to try to do all of the above. To tell you the truth I don't feel the pressure of the wait until I hear others talk about it. So sometimes I have to take a break from any adoption talk at all.
Oh, I had one of my crazy adoption dreams again. I'm in a room and someone gives me the wrong child! I know it was the wrong child because the kid was 3 years old and my child will be an infant. Instead of accepting the mistake and loving the child as my own, like I usually do in the other dreams, I go looking for the person in charge to tell them that they made a mistake. " I was approved for an infant!" I tell her. I start pointing out other baby girls that haven't been matched, asking what's the deal? Why not her or her? Anyways, weird right? I've had some strange ones...I guess it's what I've heard people refer to as "adoption hormones." Have you or anyone you know every experienced this?

4 comments:

Lisa said...

Hi! I started reading your blog b/c we used the same agency and I saw one of your posts on the yahoo group. Anyway, I wanted to comment on your dream. I had adoption dreams before we got our infant son's referral (he's also from Ethiopia). We didn't know what gender we were going to have, so when I had a dream that we were having a girl, I was convinced we would get a little girl referral. In the dream, my husband and I were in church and I had my infant baby girl in my lap. Another little girl walked up and said, "Is that your baby?" and I said, "Yes, even though she doesn't look like us." The little girl, who happened to be white, said, "Well, sometimes God gives babies to moms and dads that have different colored skin than they do." It still brings tears to my eyes and gives me chills when I think of this awesome dream. Just wanted to share--your dreams are normal!

Team Chain said...

Wow! Thanks lisa. That dream was a sweet one, almost like confirmation that you were doing the right thing. Thanks for sharing keep following along. If you have a blog I would love to follow yours.:-)

Lisa said...

I don't have a blog, but I do have facebook, and I post pics of our little boy constantly. Do you have facebook?

Alida said...

Oh yeah, I had adoption dreams too, just like I had pregnancy dreams. My adoption dream is kinda panicky like yours Toni .... I keep dreaming that when I have my little girl home, I might forget her somewhere like picking her up from somewhere, or forgetting her in the store, or forgetting her in the car and only holding Jalen's hand as I walk back to my truck! I get so worked up about it when I wake up and feel all weird, tense and exhausted..... I used to have similar panicky dreams when I was pregnant with Jalen, mostly about forgetting to feed him .... in his a little over 5 years since he's been born, I never once forgot to feed him. Huh ... crazy!!!!